I seem to always have excuses for my long absences. This time, though, I have a legitimate reason for being M.I.A.—I’m PREGNANT!!!! I’m 19 weeks along, to be exact.
But that’s not the only news. On Monday, we found out we’re expecting a baby girl! We are absolutely thrilled beyond words to be embarking on this new adventure. We’re also sort of terrified. The idea of caring for three little ones age 3 and under is a bit daunting. We’ll also be moving to the Washington, D.C. area in mid October, when the baby is only about 6 weeks old. That means we’ll be adjusting to a new home in a new city while caring for a newborn. It’s an awful lot to handle, but that’s military life for you! And hey, we’ve never been the type to do things the easy way, anyway.
Everyone says that after caring for two babies at once, one will seem like a breeze. And I see their point. But caring for a girl will be a whole new world for us. I feel like we’re experts at all things boy-related, but girl stuff—like styling hair—is foreign to us. Plus, instead of just pulling out the bins of boy clothes and dusting them off, we have to buy a whole new girl wardrobe. (Dress shopping—yay!) But we will figure it all out, and we’ll have a blast doing it.
The boys are super excited to become big brothers. Nate loves to tell total strangers about the baby in his mommy’s belly, which he describes as “so much fat.” Matt likes to pretend the baby is in his belly. But they both say they’re excited to help take care of, play with, and tickle their baby sister. (Let’s see how excited they are when she’s a little older and tries to play with their toys!)
While we are obviously super excited about this pregnancy, it’s been quite different from the first one. When I was pregnant with the twins, I was completely obsessed with the pregnancy. I read all the pregnancy books, spent hours designing the nursery, pored over baby name books, took childbirth classes, etc. But this time around, I’m lucky I remember I’m pregnant half the time. When I am not working, I am just so fully focused on the boys that I don’t have much time to think about the pregnancy. Don’t get me wrong, I take my prenatal vitamins, go to all my appointments, and take care of myself. But while we had huge lists of possible boy names at this point in my twin pregnancy, we haven’t thought of a single name yet for Baby Girl. While I have weekly belly shots from my twin pregnancy, I only have four so far with this baby—and they’re not even on the exact dates. But I guess that is typical of second pregnancies!
The boys have also been extra challenging these days. We are going through so much transition with them because there’s so much we want to get out of the way before the new baby and the move. Here are some things we’ve been up to:
- We are still struggling with potty training. Nate is fully trained (except at night), but Matt pretty much refuses to use the potty. Everyone assumed that once Matt saw Nate using the potty and wearing underwear, he’d want to. But for a while it was actually the opposite—Nate would see that Matt wasn’t using the potty, so he didn’t want to, and he’d have lots of accidents. Needless to say, I’ve spent a lot of time over the past few months doing laundry and cleaning poop and pee off the floor.
- We finally transitioned the twins from cribs to big-boy beds last weekend after Nate started catapulting himself out of the crib. (Until then, both had been perfectly content in their cribs.) It hasn’t gone well. Instead of napping, the boys now jump on their beds, jump off their beds onto each other, slam their sliding-glass closet door shut repeatedly, and throw their books all over the place. It’s mayhem, and instead of spending their naptime doing chores or getting work done, I spend it going in and out of their room to scold them. They were also repeatedly leaving their room at bedtime until we bought a lock for their door and threatened to put it on. They now stay in their room at night for the most part, except for one visit Nate made to our room at 3 am.
- I decided it was time to enroll the boys in more structured classes in preparation for preschool. They were taking Gymboree Play & Learn and Music Together classes, which were great, but the boys would spend the whole time running around and doing their own thing. Now we take an art class at Gymboree and a gymnastics class at My Gym. Both require them to follow directions, listen to their teachers, sit still for certain stretches, take turns, etc. It was a struggle in the beginning, but they are now doing great, and they’ve been a lot more focused. Plus, we just love both classes and have a lot of fun!
- The boys are transitioning from the “Terrible Twos”—which actually weren’t so terrible at all—into the “Tumultuous Threes.” I’d been hearing from many friends that three is actually worse than two, and boy, were they right. Nate, especially, seems to be testing us lately—knowingly breaking rules, protesting everything, throwing epic tantrums, and basically being as difficult as possible. Matt has been losing his temper easily when he doesn’t get his way. I’m hoping this phase passes quickly!
So, that’s what we’ve been up to here in the Walters house! I have been busier than ever and constantly on my toes, but still having a blast and enjoying California. I am going to scale back on my Baby Gizmo writing to have more time to prepare for the baby and the move and to focus on some of my other projects. I will also be spending more time on this blog, which will soon have a new look and some other cool updates. I hope to make it a valuable resource not only for military families and families with multiples, but for all families with young kids. Stay tuned, and thank you all for sticking around!